It's amazing to me how open I am about my infertility sometimes. But I am so glad sometimes that I pipe up about it and share my struggles. Even being pregnant, I still have opportunities to share what I went through. Today I had a patient who was asking about my pregnancy and I shared about our struggles to get this blessing and she opened up about her DIL who was having problems. She has had 3 miscarriages already and is afraid of her chances dwindling because of her age. I was shocked to see the pain and concern on my patient's face as she shared how hard it has been for her DIL. I guess family members share in the pain too. I never thought of that before. I felt the freedom to share how hard it is when you want a baby so bad and it seems like everyone else is getting pregnant around you and the pain that you feel when that's happening. Even with my baby kicking inside me, I felt that pain again. I felt it for her and her DIL and I wanted to take it away because I know it, and I don't want anyone else to know it. I want them to know the joy of expecting a miracle. I will pray she gets her miracle, as we have.
That's nice that you still speaking up even though you are on the "other" side. Although I guess once you start this journey, it changes no matter where you end up.
ReplyDeleteI think it helps us and other people when we share our struggles. I'm very open about it, too.
ReplyDeleteI can really relate to what you have written. Even though I'm finally pregnant (I think we're due around the same day!) after IVF and IF, I feel so much pain for those who are still struggling.
ReplyDeleteI too am very open about my IF. I think by you sharing with those around you about IF it helps brings awareness to the cause.
~ ICLW
Congratulations on your miracle!
ReplyDeleteHappy ICLW!!
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Once I was pg, I became and open book about it. I'll tell anybody and everybody about our IVF experience now. I don't want somebody who's where I was to think it came easily to us.
ReplyDeleteI left a long message on your Doula Dilemma msg. Don't want you to miss it.
I think many of us who have struggled with IF never really let go of that pain, and it makes us more empathetic towards others. I wish everyone who wanted a baby, could have one.
ReplyDeleteWhenever I have mentioned about infertility struggles I always get a story in return. I wish it wasn't that way.
ReplyDeleteCongrats on the pregnancy!
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